Susan asks…

Advice for how to deal with betrayal and cheating in a relationship?

A few months ago, I broke up with my first boyfriend (we had been going out for two years). He even brought up talk about marriage. A year and a half into the relationship I found out he had cheated on me, was in another relationship, made a sex tape,etc. This was the last thing I ever expected from him. He lied to me continuously and would only fess up when I had evidence. I was absolutely devastated and was pretty much a walking zombie for a few months, cried all the time etc. I finally decided that enough was enough and left him. Every time I broke up with him he would tell me it was the wrong decision. But a few months ago was the last time I ever spoke with him. After this period, I found out that he was with the other woman. This was probably the most painful thing ever. This other woman even called me a few times and hung up, left me recorded messages of my ex's voice, stalked my facebook and linkedin profile. She even texted me a few times to tell me to "Stay away" despite the fact that I hadn't spoken to him at all. I finally changed my number and took down my fb and linkein profile.

I loved this man very much and although I know leaving him was the best thing, I still dream about him every freaking night and think about him so incredibly often that I feel like I'm going insane. The lies that he told me and the things that I know he did make me feel like I want to throw up sometimes. Does one ever get over something like this? Does the pain subside? I'm currently 24 years old (yes, I started in on the dating scene very kinda late), and am just trying to focus on other things like my career and getting that going. But the pain is intense at times, and I don't know if I'm getting any better even though it's been months.

LearnGuitar answers:

Question; why the hell would you even consider staying with him after all that?
The guy's a loser, forget him, forget what he said.
Let the loser deal with the clingy obsessive bitch he has now, they deserve each other.

Find something else to do, if she continues to harass you, press charges.

Helen asks…

Why is American football called football but Football is called soccer?

The British introduced the game Football (Soccer) into the world and the rest of the world accepted the name as football. However Americans feel the need to alter the name and call it Soccer. Football (Soccer) is called football for the fact that every player on the field has to use their feet to keep the ball, shoot, pass and score except one player from each team who are allowed to use their hands.

American Football, however, use their feet to play the ball 5% of the time during the game. The rest of the time they use their hands.

The argument that in order to play American football you need to use your feet to get to one play to another in order to score, is an irrelevant argument. This is so because if you use that argument then there is a case that all sports can be called football.

I think American football should be called handball because football does not explain the way they play the game. Give me a valid reason why its called football because I can't find any.

LearnGuitar answers:

You're pretty ignorant.

The British introduced the game of "association football" to the world which eventually was shortened to "soccer". In the 1870s as American football developed, it started to call itself football to differentiate between "soccer" which was also being played in the U. S. 10-15 years later, the British started calling their game football. Americans were the first to call the game "football". We own the word since we used it first.

The etymology of the word "football' has absolutely nothing to do with kicking a ball. It originally referred to a variety of games in medieval Europe, which were played on foot by peasants, the aristocracy playing their games on horseback.

Actually, it doesn't matter what you think, you little turd troll. You're an American from California who's been aksing this question every other day for the last week and if I ever find you, boy, I'm gonna fúck you up big time.
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friendly advice from maine - I hope that shít doesn't keep you awake at night. Maybe you'd like to find another country where all that stuff doesn't happen. Good luck.

William asks…

How do I forgive/get along with my mother?

I am very bitter towards my mother, I can't find anything to love about her besides the fact that she gave birth to me and raised me to this point.

She has smothered me my entire life, myself being her only focus. She is very spiteful and hateful about anything that I do. She dislikes my friends who she has never met and knows nothing about, she hates anything I'm interested in, and she is constantly putting down my appearance. She will find something to say about anything that I do.

I'm a great person, and no one has ever told me otherwise besides her. I'm 18, I worked 40 hours a week over the summer, and work parttime now. I live on campus at my university. I have good grades. I've never gotten into any trouble with authority. I have a boyfriend of a year and friends who treat me well and who I adore. I'm a musician and dedicate most of my time to that.

But yet, she makes up scenarios in her head that aren't true. She asks me if I cheat on my boyfriend whenever I see one of my guy friends, which is very degrading to me. She calls me a slut, although I am a virgin. She puts down my clothes, even when absolutely nothing is showing. She insinuates that I am failing college, just because she can't see my grades (I have a 3.8 gpa). She says I am lazy and will never know how to do anything even though I cook, clean, etc everyday. She says my friends are devil worshippers because she saw one of them wearing a hood. She accuses me of doing heroin, I mean the list goes on and on.

I mean, I have to deal with pretty extreme things every time I'm around her, and it breaks my heart, because I do my best to be a great person, and she makes up these crazy scenarios that don't happen. And it all stems from her mother doing the same to her and her religious beliefs. Religion is her #1 priority in life, and she bounces around denominations, but I guess she's a Baptist.

I'm not religious and that is why our relationship is this way. I don't know how to deal with it at all. I literally feel nothing towards her because she is a terrible person. I see none of God's love coming from her. I don't know what to do anymore.

LearnGuitar answers:

It actually sounds like you do love your mother quite a lot, but her unreasonableness and the poor way she treats you are really hurting.

I also had problems with my mother - not the same as yours, but with the same effects. It is difficult but it helped me to distance myself from my mother. Time had to pass before I could even feel like I wanted to want to begin to forgive her. Time is definitely a friend in this situation.

Distance yourself, set boundaries (which it sounds like you already have), and try to remember that we can't change people. The best we can do is try to love and accept them as they are. If that is impossible, we have to be responsible enough to ourselves to minimize the opportunities that person will have to hurt us.

As years go by, things may soften and you maybe begin to feel at least the desire to forgive you mother. Maturity will also help you be able to cope better, and forgive yourself for not feeling abundant love for your mother (in case you feel guilty about it). Take care of yourself and keep hold of the knowledge that you are a good person, and your mother has problems that prevent her from being the mother you need and deserve. After time and distance, you may find you have some compassion for her - because it cannot be an easy life living in such fear and turmoil as she does.

Joseph asks…

looking for manga about blonde girl trapped in mansion, she was all alone?

hi guys I have a very big question? I've been looking a manga that I remember reading but I cant seem to remember its name. I know that is was about this blonde hair girl she lived in a mansion all alone because of a curse. I remember something like the fact that she fights demons I don't know if she was a demon or a vampire something like that. then one day two boys came to hear about the scary mansion near the school or something and decided to take a look and found the girl, then they befriended her and help her escape the cursed. I really want to know i don't even think a got the story right but some bits of it.

LearnGuitar answers:

Im only guessing so dont blame me if I get it wrong. Reading your qu. Reminded of this anime.
Murder Princess
-In the land of Foreland a coup d'état has occurred and the princess, after witnessing the death of the King, is on the run. She meets with battle-hungry bounty hunter Falis, and with a twist of fate they both switch souls, making Alita the maid of the now princess Falis. Named for her bravery in confronting the enemy as ‘Murder Princess’, Falis must continue to be the princess as well as confronting any new opponent that comes to her way
http://myanimelist.net/anime.php?id=1696

Jenny asks…

was it out of my fathers place to tell me this? it was really weird?

So I was knocked out sleeping this morning and my dad asked me to come with him because one of my family members needed help from the hurricane and being that I was half sleep I really didn't answer him. When he came into the room I had on an old halter dress that I sleep in and someway or another while I was sleeping the dress must have lowered to below my bust line. When he tapped me he yelled " pull your dress up" me being half asleep I was like " wtf, you're in my room telling me to pull my dress up and i'm not even awake" I thought that was so rude of him. honestly it's my bedroom, and the fact that my dress wasn't covering my breasts shouldn't matter to you because i'm sleeping.

I was so disturbed by that, why would he say that?
it's weird though i'm 18 and it's awkward and I have a big bust and it makes it worse.

sarah: it does, i'm a little insecure about them and I plan on getting a breast reduction. I try to hide them as much as possible.

LearnGuitar answers:

Sounds like he felt guilty seeing your naked breasts, and was angry that he had to come into your room because you didn't hear him - to do something that he did not want, just to see something that he did not want to. Give him a break. That sounds like he respects you.

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James asks…

Did my boss make the right decision "firing me"?

I'm a new graduate nurse and was hired on the combined unit (med/surg/palli) of a small community hospital. I was teamed up with other nurses during my probation time until my boss felt comfortable to let me practice alone. That never happened. One of the first preceptors I had when I first walked foot into that hospital was this lady, a older lady who was nice but kinda rough around the edges. During the time I spent with her everything was going swell except for the medication administrating or as she thought I had a issue with. I never used to have trouble with meds but now since I was first hired I found one aspect of my job I needed improving in. The other places where I had my placements during school used a automatic dispensing machine so the drugs were in blister packages made it easier for me. The ones used here were the old fashion where you need to remove from the patient drawer and pour them out manually.
2 weeks went by and my preceptor seen I was still having issues as I was making med errors almost everyday. The only reason I knew I was making errors were because everytime she would watch me making it very nerve racking to say the least and that contribute to my mistakes. We as nurses must work in stressful times but hey I'm just beginning my career cut me some slack. Right? My boss talked to me and said that I needed to take a course before coming back so I'm pretty well fired. Although she said that after completion I may return if given the fact there is a job available. Was it right that my boss got rid of me? When she called me into her office she asked if I wanted a union rep not knowing what she wanted to discuss I said that I wasn't sure. So here I am a new nurse and I suppose to be prefect? WTF

LearnGuitar answers:

Of course she was right. You are putting patients at risk by making constant mistakes. It also appears that your communication skills may not be, um, on par with what they expect.

There is no "slack" when it comes to patient care. A hospital can't afford to cut a nurse "slack". It ends up with a dead or maimed patient and a huge lawsuit. If I were the family member of someone you made an Rx error on, and the person was hurt from it, you had better believe I'd sue the hospital AND you personally. "Slack" doesn't cut it, sorry.

Carol asks…

How long is too long to wait for him to propose?

I have been with my boyfriend for 8 years now. We first began dating in high school, I was 15 years old and I believe he was 14. I am now 23 and he is now 22 (but in another 2 months he too will be 23). Of course I know that because we started dating so young I was going to have to wait a long time before we could even start discussing marriage. But we are now at the age where the people around us are starting to begin their lives with each other (getting engaged/married). My boyfriend and I are both still in college and have both agreed that we don't want to get married until we've graduated, which is still about 2 years away. Although I agreed to this, it is still extremely hard for me to watch everyone around me begin their lives with their loved one when they have not even been dating them even half as long as I've been with my bf. I know this should not even be an issue, especially considering the fact that those couples have finished their schooling and are ready for that next step in life. Although, it’s hard not to be jealous of them, but I know that my bf and I are not quite there yet... yes we've been dating longer but we have no finical security and this is something that won’t be obtainable for us until we graduate. So I'm trying to ignore my surroundings and stick to the original plan and wait.

So now that yall have a slight background of us now to the reason I asked this question, "How long is too long to wait for him to propose?" My bf has always had commitment issues, because the divorce level is so high he has this horrible view on marriage. He feels that once you get married you won’t be able to accomplish a lot of your goals in life b/c you’re always going to have to address the other persons opinion about it. I don't fully understand why he feels this way, but I'm unable to change his outlook on it. Yet when I ask him if he’s EVER going to want us to get married he says yes, but not for a while.... imagine how I'm beginning to feel knowing first of all his bad outlook on marriage, 2nd that he feels once he marries me that I would be holding him back from the things the wants to do in life and 3rd that its going to a AWHILE until he even starts thinking about marriage. Our original plan of waiting until we graduate has now gone down the drain. Now not only does he NOT want to get married after college but he wants to wait until he is completely independently stable. I understand that he has a lot of things that he wants to accomplish in life, but I'm beginning to feel like I'm not one of them.

I asked him if he would even start saving for a ring once he graduated and he told me probably not b/c he 1st wants to save for a new car and for a place of his own before he even starts thinking about saving for a ring. I don't know what to do, I love my boyfriend so much, and I want to wait until he’s ready to get married. I don't want him to feel forced into marrying me, but at the same time I don't want to be taken for granted and not have him even consider about my feelings and what I want in life.

How do I know if he seriously wants to marry me someday or if he's just making excuses and really doesn't want to marry me. And how do I know if he’s serous about his feelings on marriage, could it be a maturity thing or is he already set in his ways (keep in mind he’s still 22), or could he feel that way b/c of me...am I just not THE ONE but he just doesn't know it yet?

I want to get married, and I know some people are thinking that marriage is just some piece of paper, and that we don't need it to be happy. I sorry but for those who feel this way, but you don't need to comment and say this particular opinion b/c I just don't agree with you. For me, that paper is so much more than just a piece of paper, it’s a symbol of someone’s love and devotion it’s their commitment to you and shows that they are willing to not only share but risk everything they have worked for all their life for you. I want to finally be able to share a home together, to sleep next to each other and to someday start a family together. And I refuse to live together before being married. Call me old fashion but when I get married I want it to FEEL like a Big Deal and I want it to be life changing. I just feel like if I was to live with him before getting married, that once it finally happened, everything will feel the same as it did before we were married, this is how I can see marriage becoming "just a piece of paper" and I don't ever want to look at marriage in that way. I want to try and wait for him b/c I love him, but am I just waiting for something that's never going to happen... Considering I have NO CLUE when he will even begin to consider proposing to me.

LearnGuitar answers:

I married a divorce attorney who came from a broken home where the father was abusive, and who had been dumped by his last fiance, so believe me, I KNOW how you feel, lol. Plus we had dated longer than most of my married friends. I also had a friend who was engaged then broke up then met a new guy then got engaged again, all while we were dating! And we're in our 30s, so I felt my biological clock ticking, hehe.

(This will be lengthy, but please consider it with an open mind.)

That said, a lot of what he says makes sense. Waiting until you graduate. (You agree with that.) Waiting until you are financially stable. Also very smart. A car and house should be a priority over a wedding ring and a wedding. I totally support this viewpoint.

On the other hand, being married is pretty much the same as being in a serious relationship. I know my relationship with my husband didn't change when we said our vows. He was still considerate and told me when he'd be late from work. I still told him when I was going out with a friend. Marriage isn't the reason you consult the other person; I'm assuming he already does this. Marriage also doesn't prohibit you from doing anything, unless that "anything" is having wild drunken threesomes with prostitutes or going on a cruise and plowing every girl on the ship. So that viewpoint makes no sense to me.

I'm going to say this, and I know a lot of people say this and it ticks you off. But you're both still young. You may have been together for 8 years, which is awesome, but it also means you haven't really experienced anything. You're barely into adulthood, you probably did not date around, you probably did not sleep around, you probably did not have any other serious relationship. I understand the hesitation. There is a lot of the world you haven't seen and done because you've been in a relationship.

So could he decide you're not the one and vice versa? Absolutely. It can happen at any time to any one but especially when the relationship starts out young. You feel cheated almost, that you haven't gotten to experience everything. For some couples, this is 100% okay. My sister met her husband at 15, they got married at 19, and they've been married for 8 years. That's not to say their relationship has been perfect and that they haven't considered divorce on more than one occasion.

I honestly believe that if you two stick together, he will eventually decide to get married. I really don't see him as committing to you for so long and then deciding marriage is a stupid idea. Not saying it can't happen, but it's not that likely. However, like I said, he may feel like he hasn't achieved everything because he's always been in a relationship. Yes, this sounds stupid, but it's true. He's hesitating for a reason.

You two are on different pages right now. You want to get married; you are certain of your decision. He is not. That doesn't mean he's going to change his mind about you. It doesn't mean he doesn't love you. It just means he's still young, inexperienced, and immature. For guys, career is a HUGE priority. They grow up basically being told they are the primary breadwinners, and if they can't support their family, they are worthless. That's why most guys aren't married until later in life; they feel that they NEED to have these things accomplished before they ever put a ring on it. Women, on the other hand, primarily feel the need for family, husband, children, picket fence, dog, etc. You can do that at any time. As you get older, the need gets stronger (biological clock!). Since you feel secure in your relationship, and since your marriage is about your relationship, it's time. For guys, marriage is about the relationship but also about providing for his wife, providing for his children, being the best he can be. He doesn't feel secure yet.

So yes, it's difficult to be around people who have what you want. (I cried when my friend got engaged.) But if you can try to look at it from a different perspective, it might help you see why he is hesitating. I have no doubt that he loves you and sees a future with you. (Eight years together is nothing to roll your eyes at.) But he's not ready now. He may not be for another 5 years. How long you want to wait is up to you.

I suggest you keep the lines of communication open between the two of you about future goals and plans. Work together to achieve the car and the house. Support him in his endeavors to find the job that's going to support your family. You can bring up marriage again, but I wouldn't count on the proposal for a while. Again, how long you choose to wait is up to you, and it definitely sucks to be in that situation -- but like you said, you can't force him and it'll likely make him feel blackmailed anyway.

Paul asks…

Can you please give me some insight as to where my former JW boyfriend's faith stands.?

Hi there, my boyfriend and I have been together for about a year. He was raised as a Jehovah's witness but stopped studying when he was 18, he is now 29. He will not give me a definitive answer as to why he left, he says something along the lines of just not wanting to go anymore. Also, strangely enough his entire family still speaks to him so it is not like he was disfellowshipped. When I asked him if he would ever go back to it, his response is, "I haven't yet in 11 years have I?" The more I think about that statement the more I realize that it is just a play on words...he is not actually telling me no. I don't want this particular religion to be a part of my life for several reasons mostly due to its highly apparent cult like properties. My sister was drawn into the propaganda by a man and it drove a stake through my family. We never see her anymore.

In the year that we have been together he has celebrated birthdays, christmas, thanksgiving and easter with with me very happily. He has even helped me throw some birthday parties for loves ones. Although I vaugely recall him refusing to say the words, "merry christmas" to me. I looked up the list of serious sins in the JW faith and he breaks a few of them just by being a normal guy. Having a couple of beers, enjoying a cigarette here and there, fornicating outside of marriage and gambling at the casino one or twice a year earn you heathen status amongst JW, although in this day and age none of these things make you a bad person. I know that I have heard him use the phrase, "I swear to Jehovah-who I know to be the one true god" before when trying to gaurentee me something. We have had a discussion about whether or not he would accept a blood transfusion if need be in the past. It got quite heated with it ending in him saying that yes, he would accept it if need be. I donated blood yesterday and the topic came up again. He was adament that he would never need a transfusion (which is probably the case) I wanted a yes or no answer because it is important to me to know this about him as it is part of who he is. This time he said that he would be ok with it if I made the decision if he was not concious but would not say yes or no on whether or not he would willingly accept it. I love him dearly and I want to respect his thoughts and beliefs yet I can't accept the fact that he would commit suicide for the sake of the watchtower given the choice. This especially alarms me because I can now see how deep rooted his brainwashing is.

Anyways, with this information compiled, does anyone with a familiarity with the JW "religion" have some insight on where his faith stands because it seems that he wont be honest with me about it - a red flag. I'm not going to leave the guy over it, I just want to know what other people with more knowledge of the JW faith think.

Thank you,

-Kelly
He is baptized

LearnGuitar answers:

Look up ex jehovah's witnesses on google. It will give you an idea of what you are dealing with...
Please research the cult and see what they are about before you unevenly yoke yourself to a person that is not truly a christian. If you have children with him, he is going to want them raised as a JW. You must know if you'd want your children around that. Here are some places to start...

Http://www.eaec.org/cults/jehovahswitnes…

http://www.theforbiddenknowledge.com/har…

http://www.theforbiddenknowledge.com/har…

http://carm.org/jehovahs-witnesses

http://www.jwfacts.com/

William asks…

This is KILLING me...?

This is a long story, but I'll try to make it short. (And by the way, I'm not a miserable depressed person in general.)

My boyfriend (who I've been with quite a while and I plan to marry within the next few years or so) has had sex with other girls before I was around. I purposely never had sex with anyone because I know how past partners can ruin relationships and create many problems in marriage, and you're supposed to wait for a reason. I know that my boyfriend will never be all mine because he has memories and all from his past experiences, and the other girls all have a little piece of him. I feel so cheated that I saved myself for the person I will married and he didn't. It didn't used to bother me much, but lately it has. I don't know what, if anything, will make it better. Trying not to think about it doesn't help. Talking about it helps a little bit but he never wants to. He doesn't get how I feel about it and he thinks it's no big deal and that I should just "get over it".

I'm afraid I'm never going to be able to let this go. He never brings it up or talks about it so it's not like he rubs it in, and I don't want to make him feel bad about it so I don't bring it up much. I definitely want to do some kind of marriage counseling before we're married, just because it's a good thing to do in general, but I doubt anything a counselor or anyone could say would make me feel better. I always felt good about saving myself and hoped my future husband would do the same for me, and we wouldn't have this problem that seems to come up all the time these days. But that's not what happened. I'll never be quite as special because I'm not his only, and I feel sex with him will never be that special either.

I feel like no one knows how I feel. It's like this deep, aching pain that doesn't go away and a lot of the time when I think of it I just want to cry. It's no as easy as "just letting it go, leave the past in the past." It's not like yeah, he did it, oh well. No consequences for him, just forget about it. I do love him but it's just so unfair I have to live with the fact that he had sex with other girls and they shared that with him, and he doesn't have to think about that with me.

Does anyone have any advice or is going through he same thing? And not those girls who are like "I only slept with 3 guys but he slept with 10 girls!". That's different. You both slept with people other than each other, doesn't matter how many. I have to live with having no past but dealing with his. :'(
Joe: fuck you, put down the pizza, get out of your parent's basement, loose some weight and maybe we'll talk

Sylvia: no, he did know me, just chose to whore himself out
HELLOOOOO... I DID know him then.... and he lied to me about it... he did't tell me until well after we started dating.

LearnGuitar answers:

I do not know how old you are but I think you will have to go to another planet to find a guy over 16 and still a virgin. You should not have started to date him if you knew you could not deal with it. You need to get over it and enjoy his prowess as a lover. As long as once you are married, he is yours. Good luck....

You will make life a living hell if you can not get over something that happened before he met you. YOur other choice is to get rid of the guy, give him a break, find a virgin to marry.

Mark asks…

I don't think I am pregnant but I could be?

I'm on the pill, but for an entire week (maybe 9 days) I didn't take my pill. I was told to use backup methods for a month, and we did, except near the end of the month, once we forgot. I was pretty sure nothing would come of it, however, since it was nearing the end of the month where we needed the extra backup. So then, 2 weeks before my period is supposed to come, I had several dizzy spells (nothing horrible, but I had never felt dizzy like this before) and a couple of the times I had pretty bad headaches with the dizziness. I didn't think much of it - just kept an eye on it since I'd never felt that way before. It subsided quite a bit after about 5 days of it coming and going, but even in the past week or so I have felt it, but much less. It wasn't until the week before my period was due, that I started to wonder about things, because I started spotting, and I also felt a pulling sensation in my abdomen for 1 day, and a little the next day. I started to wonder if I could be pregnant... but also whether or not it was just the fact that I missed 7-9 days of my BC pills. So, the week of my period was supposed to come, I continued to spot, it was never heavy never red. I felt backaches and cramps, but it never came. Now I am not spotting anymore, and I would normally be starting my next pill pack this Tuesday. I took an early pregnancy test yesterday morning, and it was negative. To be honest, I was kinda bummed... altho we aren't planning on kids now, I was really starting to think I was. Anyway... what would you do... I never got my period, I still have occasional dizzy feelings, and I noticed some veins on my chest that I don't usually see, but maybe it's because i never really looked for them before, haha. My only "symptoms" are the dizzy, headaches, extra tiredness, no period, lower backache, cramps, pulling sensation in abdomen, and I think that's it. if I take another test on Tuesday and it is negative, would you just go on and forget about the possibility, or would you pursue it further? I take 20 mg of lexapro and sometimes I take a sleeping pill, and I'm worried to continue doing that if I am pregnant. But at the same time, if the test says negative, then is that enough? haha. Any advice would be great. thanks. (Reposting in different category)

LearnGuitar answers:

Just once is enough, unfortunately. I would not exactly trust home pregnancy tests as they may be affected by what is left over of your pill hormones. However, the backache and cramps may indicate that you will have a late bleed. Do consider going to your doctor or a women's clinic for a proper checkup and a discussion of your situation.

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Laura asks…

How do religious people explain the fact that their are many different religions with many different Gods?

LearnGuitar answers:

First of all, most people who claim to be religious actually are not - they don't practice what they preach, they don't preach what they believe, and they are confused about what they think they believe.

There really is only one Source for all that exists and all that transpires in the Universe. We all share That in common, although It is called by many names and given many descriptions, all of which point towards the same Source.

Each and every being has his/her/its own path towards the realization of the one source, so the view for each and every being is different. That's because we are each individual projections of the creativeness of the Source into manifestation in this material realm. We find and express meaning in our lives through our highest Ideals, and what we hold to be our highest Ideals is our real vision of "God" - a vision that evolves as we progress on our spiritual journeys. (Unless we become fixated in our beliefs, in which case our journey ceases.)

Regardless of all of our apparent differences and of our diverse paths, the shared essence of every spiritual journey towards the One is Love. It is Love that calls us, Love that inspires us, Love that compels us, Love that unites us - with each other and in the One. When we focus on the diversity and the differences, we become confused. When we focus on Love, we find unity with each other, and will eventually find Unity in the One.

Sandy asks…

Is it possible that Herman Cain leaked the sexual harrasment accusations himself?

Think about it, it is a brilliant strategy.

If you know this is in your past, and you know that it is something that is going to get discovered and likely used against you, you would want to get it out there as soon as possible, and in the least damaging way.

If another candidate wanted to leak this information they wouldn't leak it right now, they would leak it right before the primaries when it would do the most damage. In the case of a general election it would be released right before the election or as an October surprise.

As it is Cain took their ammunition away from them, and it will be old news by the time the primaries roll around. In fact he not only took their ammunition away from them but he used it against them. He accused Perry of leaking this which makes Perry look bad

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Herman Cains standings in the polls have not been affected at all, and his campaign contributions have gone up.

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I'm more concerned about how ill-prepared he was to address the issue. If he had leaked the accusations himself, he should have had a much better response than "I don't recall."

Mark asks…

My husband is really hot and fun and charming. He will be joining softball team pretty soon. How can I handle?

the fact that whenever he plays ( I never go with him ), he flirts with and even befriends other women, and what should I do when other women reciprocate ?

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Go to his games and practices, be helpful, bring drinks, every girl he befriends, you befriend also. Never show jealousy in front of other women, that can just make is a fun challenge to some.

Mary asks…

Did you know that Anne of Green Gables is a musical?

So I was at dance class the other day and my dance teacher left her music in her car which was parked far away. Every week my teacher does a different musical for our class. To find a musical for us to dance to she went into the other studio and it turned out that the only musical the studio owned was Anne of Green Gables (who knew). As the class jokingly started to listen to the music that we had expected to be extremely dull we were surprised to find that while the music was in no way good it was not dull. In fact the music was extremly upbeat. The song we warmed up to was called "Ice Cream" and the song that we choreagraphed a routine to was called "General Store". I was just wondering if anyone has ever heard of Anne of Green Gables the musical and if it ever played on broadway or in an off broadway production. I was also wondering who the director, the playwrite, and the original cast were.

LearnGuitar answers:

It's been playing in Charlettetown, P.E.I. For 25 plus years as a tourist attraction for 'Anne's' place of origin.

Has toured elsewhere in Canada. Also fairly popular as a high school musical in Canada.

You're right; it's not great, but it's cheerful and bouncy.

Chris asks…

Is it wrong to ask god to take your life away?

To start off, I hate life, it sucks and we all know that the world right now is VERY crappy. Now, i know that killing myself is a sin, and i try my best not to sin or give in to the devil. So instead i ask god at night to take me away because of the fact that this life just sucks. Supposedly everyone has a purpose which i doubt i have one and if i do i probably already did what was needed of me and i should just go. I want to go to heaven and all, but i just want god to take me away, i DO NOT want to live anymore. I cant take the pain. Is this bad? Im just telling you the same way i tell god. im just being honest. I dont want god to be pissed at me for thinking this way but its the truth.

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If you want some thing to take you away call Calgon

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Sandy asks…

Atheists can't refute this argument against evolution?

Show me any animal that can recite the Preamble to the Constitution in English, & then you can say I am an animal/

Can't face the fact that I'm right, can you?

LearnGuitar answers:

1. I can show you about 1 billion animals that could do that. They're humans. Humans ARE animals.
2. Even if I couldn't, what would that prove? Nothing. It's not a requirement of evolution that a creature can read an English text.

Can't face the fact that Evolution is demonstrable scientific fact can you?

Daniel asks…

How do you get over the fact that you are not always going to be the prettiest girl in the room?

I'm not conceded at all so don't write that i am but for the longest time i use to always be the prettiest girl in school or at a party.lately it hasn't been that way. i know its absolutely ridiculous and i need to get over it but i need help.(be nice please)

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R u nice, do u have great friends, do u live in a good environment, then thats all that matters, sure it is great to look beautiful, but no one is always the center of attention and its okay, you are yourself and always will be and that is what is the important thing

Paul asks…

Why are people so hyped up on the fact that Tim Tebow and the Broncos beat a team they were supposed to beat?

It's the Miami Dolphins for crying out loud. Geez you would think these people thought they won the Super Bowl or something. *Smh*.

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Because they desperately grasp at some meager success they can attribute to Tebow.

James asks…

Do female TV presenters get a buzz from the fact that some men are probably fantasising about them?

Does it make them act in a certain way on camera/media pictures.

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To be honest they probably can`t stand it or maybe totally love it but usually they are in it for the money or because its their dream but it can be scary having men everywhere love you cause there are some creepers out there

Ruth asks…

suggestions for helping my daughter?

Hey there my daughter is 10 years old and I figured it was time to start talking to her about puberty. I don't really mind talking about, other than the fact that i'm sort of nervous, but I don't know how to bring it up. I don't want to bring it up out of the blue, because I think that's awkward and she'll probably shut me out. How do I initiate the conversation? What are some conversation starters? I'm pretty sure she knows some stuff from her friends, but probably not enough.

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Here is what my mom did with me:
She bought me the book called THE CARE AND KEEPING OF YOU by American Girl Doll Company
Then, she said, "let's look at this together" so we did
It wasn't as awkward as some of my friends talks
Also I'm 13 and had the talk when I was 10 too then the sex talk when I was 12
Also, my mom never told me that I should wait to have sex til I'm married, just have her get e some stuff first, so that didn't make e go behind her back just a tip
Also, don't say stuff like, don't have sex til ur married or don't wear tampons til ur not a virgin cuz it'll just make her want to do it more
Good! Hope it goes well!

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Linda asks…

Can you come up with any lyrics or quotes that mean this ???(i want it for my new tattoo)?

İ am looking to get a quote or song lyric tattooed on me that roughly sums up, means this.
"İ believe in complete monogamy in relationships.Going to another real woman to receive or give any kind of sexual pleasure is cheating.İ believe strippers are cheating.You do not have to touch to cheat.The fact that you are going to another woman to receive that kind of pleasure means you are cheating"
İm sorry about it being all jumbled up but if you can try and make some sense out of it it would mean a great deal to me

ps:please dont write down your views on cheating.İ AM NOT ASKİNG YOU TO JUDGE MY VİEWS ON CHEATİNG.just if possible, help me come up with a song lyric or quote that roughly means what i have just written down

thanks in advance

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“Woman wants monogamy; Man delights in novelty”

Lizzie asks…

Ramadan : Do parents have the right to force their children to go to school?

Do they have the right to not give a choice for their kid to get an education? Even if you go by the kuffar law where you don't have to obey your parents after 18, before 18 at least - you agree that the kid has no choice in getting the elementary middle school and high school educations right? The parent has the right to force that whether their kid likes it or not!!

Of course they should at the same time be able to communicate with their kids to make them understand why they have to.. but in the end.. it's the parents choice right?

So you believe in education.. we're all agreed on that.

Now the question is - do you believe in islam?

Some people that claim to be muslim say parents don't have the right to make their kids pray - the same people that say the parents have the right to make their kids go to school.

In essence, are they saying school is more important than islam?

Can they be considered muslims at that point? Or at the very least - hypocrites, inshaAllah only by ignorance that need to be taught.

In fact, those very people should take a look at this fact.

The very religion that says this ; The Prophet said: Order your children to pray at the age of seven. And beat them [lightly] if they do not do so by the age of ten. And separate them in their bedding.

Hadith - Bukhari 3:734, Narrated Abu Huraira

The Prophet said, "If somebody fights (or beats somebody) then he should avoid the face."

the thing that they disagree on while the prophet saws ordered it.. that very religion they deny in that aspect, they're following in another aspect :

The Prophet said: Order your children to pray at the age of seven. And beat them [lightly] if they do not do so by the age of ten. And separate them in their bedding.

Hadith - Bukhari 3:734, Narrated Abu Huraira

The Prophet said, "If somebody fights (or beats somebody) then he should avoid the face."

Did Allah say it was okay to pick and choose what parts of islam you want to follow?

Or did he say this?

"But no by Your Lord! They cannot have faith until they make you [O Muhammad] judge in all disputes between them and find in themselves no resistance to your decisions, and accept them with full submission. And if We had ordered them [saying]: ‘kill [the guilty ones amongst] yourselves or leave your homes’ very few of them would have done it. If they had done what they were told, it would have been better for them and would have strengthened their [faith]. And indeed we would then have bestowed upon them a great reward from Ourselves. And indeed we would have guided them to a Straight Way. And whosoever obeys Allaah and the Messenger then they will be in the company of those upon whom Allaah has bestowed His favour: the Prophets, the sincerely truthful, the martyrs and the righteous. What an excellent company these are!" [An-Nisaa` (4): 65-69]

Also in the VERY tafsir of al FATIHA the surah you read every single day.. in the last verse about the jews that earned allah's anger.. the tafsir of that is that they ended up taking some things and then leaving out other parts that they didn't feel like following

and about the christians that went astray the tafsir is because they lost the meaning of allah's message.. so they forgot the importance of following it.. forgot the meaning of following it. thus disregarded it altogether

THIS IS WHAT WE RECITE AND ASK ALLAH TO NOT BECOME EVERY DAY OF OUR LIVES, but how many of us are just reciting words without any contemplation whatsoever about what it means!!

don't make excuses to not follow islam people.. the REASON the ummah is so pathetic is because the past generations were saying the exact same things as you. the only times in history islam was legitimate was when people didn't take EVEN ONE VERSE from allah for granted.. didn't make ONE excuse at all. weren't AT ALL influenced by the secular world..

but after.. they all ended up losing it.. falling victims.. and now all they do is make excuses and try to justify it so they can feel smart. WAKE UP because you're not smart just because you agree with the majority kuffar of the world. the true believers were promised great tests in this time period.. and people that do things like this are failing MISERABLY !!

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Agreed.. Well said!
Salam

Paul asks…

Why does the Left refuse to discuss Obama without mentioning others? ..Will Obama EVER own this presidency?

Talk about the economy: '...well Bush _________ (insert whatever)'.
Try to discuss Fast&Furious: '...well Reagan _________ (insert Iran/Contra)'.
Bring up campaigning: '...well Palin _________ (insert blame)'.
Mention Solyndra: '...well Republicans _________ (insert deflection)'.

Bush has been gone for a long time, Sarah Palin is just another American citizen holding no publically elected office and Ronald Reagan hasnt been president in decades not to mention that fact that the man has been dead for years.

Im telling you I cannot find one single Obama-supporting Democrat to discuss this man with me without them wanting to instantly bring up another subject. And you can forget about calling me a liar, I live and work here in DC and see it every single day.

So what is it about Obama that no one wants to admit???
I'll have to wonder if any of the Obama supporters in here who answered this question know they just proved me right.

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Because the Republicans are the alternative.

The choice in this next election isn't between Obama and some imagined personal ideal of a President for every individual voter - it's between Obama and whatever corrupt moron the Republicans nominate.

That's your own crow you're eating right now - we Democrats wouldn't be able to say things like "so Obama isn't perfect, but remember the catastrophe the Republicans gave you last time you voted for them?" If you don't want to be held accountable for Bush, then maybe you shouldn't have elected Bush (or Cain or Perry or any of the other jokes you guys are talking about nominating now).

Susan asks…

When Cons view the facts of murders per capita in states with lax gun laws do they think those laws work?

LOL I put Cons and "view the facts" in the same sentence .. sorry they missed that day of school afraid someone would try to make them learn about Evolution or Climatology or Plate Tectonics.
Oh look the illiterates have a Fox News opinion piece (foxnews.com/OPINON) and something called the american-PARTISAN.com to prove their points.

Surely things named "fox news OPINIONS" and the "PARTISAN" aren't biased right?

LOL

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"We have tough guns laws here in Massachusetts. I support them. They keep us safe. I will not chip away at them."

- Mitt "Flip Flop" Romney

Mitt said it best.

Chris asks…

Army Enlisted MOS for Intelligence?

I'm planning on joining the Army and my hope is to get an mos that's a part of the military intelligence branch. Preferably, 96b. If not that then I would also be interested in 97e or 96d. I would be happy with just about anything in intel though. I hear it's really to get into though. Does the fact that I have background in law enforcement as a cop help me at all? Thanks in advance.

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No, the only thing that matters is your ASVAB score. Have you taken it yet? I am leaving for training in 19 days and my MOS is 35P (cryptologic linguist). I had to take the DLAB, as well, for this job. You will also need either a secret or top secret clearance to work intel so make sure you have a clean background and are honest with the interviewer.

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